Parents suck when we are teenagers....Then we get why eventually.

So tonight I sit here after complaining to good friends about having kids in general. Did you ever think as a teenager that you would say..."Damn my parents knew what they were talking about?'. I know I never did. I thought I knew everything and they were stupid. All that crap at least you thought it was crap rings true when your raising your own kids. I know my Dad...aka..grumps is getting a laugh now. I think back to my early years. "Button that jacket cause your going to get a cold". I challenged that...and got a cold. " I had to find out for myself being a stubborn one.  Respect your elders". Which I really have always done even if I questioned them behind the scenes. Maybe even talked some shit about them. They did know their shit though. My favorite was curfew. All my friends all had a later curfew. My parents always told me "nothing good happens after midnight". I thought they were crazy! I was pissed that I was the only one not out after midnight. I fought this and challenged it at times. Only to find a mad Grumps in his undies waiting for me. I never got it when he told me he couldn't sleep till I got home. I get it now. He was worried because he loved me. I really at that time thought he was a buzz kill. They are still right on this after midnight statement. Even in my later years nothing good happens after midnight.

 I always and I mean always compared myself to what other kids got to do. This is a thorn in my side now. My kids are always telling me what other kids can do. Also what other parents buy for them and do. Man I hate when my kids say "Well so and so can do this"  I know I questioned this fact all the time and hated when my parents didn't act like the better parents or buy me what the other kids got.  I get it now..are you happy Debbie and Grumps...you can say I told you so.

I was a floater as a teen. I had really responsible smart friends and I had some bad ones. My parents always recognized the bad ones. I would fight them about these people. I would defend these friends to the end. Knowing they were bad. Knowing good and well that I was not making good decisions with them.  My parents knew what was up though. I thought they were stupid.  I see this same pattern with my teenager. I see him do great when he sticks with certain kids. I see him make mistakes with others. It's funny because even as an adult my mom catches on to good friends verses questionable ones. She is always spot on! So I guess that never goes away. My hope is someday he will get that I was not trying to be a jerk, I was trying to be a parent and protect him as best as I could. Shield him from the bad. I'm hoping the UNIVERSE hears me! HELLO FRICKIN UNIVERSE I READ YOUR BOOK!

My all time most hated statement was..."because I said so". I swore I would never use this. You get to a point were you can't fight them. "Because I said so is the best thing you can think of". It's when your done fighting and you have nothing else to say! It sucks as a parent. It's like the white flag statement.

Anywho, I get it mom and dad. It took a while but I hear you loud and clear now. I finally get when you told me family is forever friends come and go. I get it because you are the last ones standing with me all the time. I thought in my younger years it was my friends.  I do think that kids need to make mistakes to learn from them and become the person they will be in the end. I hate that though. I as a parent don't want them to make any mistakes. I don't want them to feel heartbreak, betrayal, I don't want them to get that everyone is not good, I want them to be happy, healthy, and full of life! And I happen to know almost everything!  Even though they don't get it yet! Man I swore as a kid I would never say the things that fly out of my mouth these days! Karma!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!